Who doesn’t love a Manic Pixie Dream Girl? You know, that incredibly attractive, inspired and lively young woman who’s inexplicably but incredibly attracted to a dull, depressed male protagonist? She’s so cute, right? But in like, a totally nonsexual, awkward, supplementary kind of way.
I’ve loved a couple of them, myself. Garden State and Almost Famous, maybe the most common examples of the MPDG, are two
of my favorite movies. I also recently saw Harold and Maude, which is arguably a simple variation on the trope;
but also, arguably, not.
Maude (Ruth Gordon) clearly introduces deep meaning (not to mention sexuality) into Harold’s (Bud Cort) boring and, literally, lifeless existence. You could certainly argue that the whole point of her character is to take care of her man, and once she does that, she no longer has a reason to live. You could also, and rightly so, point out that it makes no sense for her spend her last week on Earth with this boring little boy. Wouldn’t a more realistic, more liberated, and less male-dependent woman want to hang with her friends in her last few days of life? But I think these characters are more complicated than that, and the film certainly has more to say than some reiterated message about finding inspiration in the mundane. While Harold and Maude’s relationship could have easily unfolded along this conventional plotline, the actors’ brilliant performances saved this film from becoming a just-another-romantic-comedy.
Maude (Ruth Gordon) clearly introduces deep meaning (not to mention sexuality) into Harold’s (Bud Cort) boring and, literally, lifeless existence. You could certainly argue that the whole point of her character is to take care of her man, and once she does that, she no longer has a reason to live. You could also, and rightly so, point out that it makes no sense for her spend her last week on Earth with this boring little boy. Wouldn’t a more realistic, more liberated, and less male-dependent woman want to hang with her friends in her last few days of life? But I think these characters are more complicated than that, and the film certainly has more to say than some reiterated message about finding inspiration in the mundane. While Harold and Maude’s relationship could have easily unfolded along this conventional plotline, the actors’ brilliant performances saved this film from becoming a just-another-romantic-comedy.

This dynamic is particularly apparent when the two sleep
together for the first time, a sex scene that tastefully substitutes the actual
dirty deed with bubbles and fireworks and sunlight, all in true Manic Pixie
Dream Girl form. Instead, the actors portray their characters’ activity
post-copulation. Bud Cord is sitting upright in bed, awake, alert, and blowing
bubbles. Through this movement, which reflects the brilliant firework display
that directly precedes this shot, Cort emphasizes Harold’s active role in the
relationship, as well as the male active role in sex. Maude herself is sleeping
in this scene; Ruth Gordon does not stir at all, juxtaposing Cort’s movements
and emphasizing the passive role that most women play in the traditional
romantic comedy relationship. Because Gordon takes on such a “feminine” role
while Cort simultaneously becomes the active agent in their relationship, this
scene proves that Maude, despite her age, is still able to fulfill Harold’s
conventional sexual desires as competently as she fulfills his emotional ones.
By presenting so unorthodox a couple in such traditional masculine and feminine
roles, the actors challenge conventional conceptions of beauty, sexuality, and
attraction – a key part of the Manic Pixie Dream Girl’s whole deal.
The film goes on, in my opinion, to break down the MPDG
trope in a second, very different way, this time by addressing these
conventional gendered power dynamics themselves. On the night of Maude’s 80th
birthday, Harold surprises her with a private celebration and, though he never
actually goes through with it, a plan to propose to her. At the outset of the
scene, Cort is again the active performer: he removes her blindfold, leads her
in dancing, and even reaches across the screen to remove a tablecloth with a
large flourish, allowing his body and his movements to completely dominate the
shot. He also kisses her, all while she stands very still and stays relatively
quiet throughout the scene. Finally, he hints at his marriage proposal. This is the ultimate example of his activity and her passivity, as he decided to marry her,
assumed her consent, and announced it to his mother as a fact – all without
informing Maude herself of his plan. At this pivotal moment, however, Gordon tells him
(quite kindly) that she took pills to kill herself and will be dead by the end
of the day. With this announcement, Cort immediately stops moving. In fact, he
seems frozen, an abrupt transition symbolic of the realization that he is not,
in fact, the only active partner in the couple, and that Gordon, quite
untraditionally, has an agency of her own.

So, it's hard to discuss this without talking about how Harold and Maude is essentially a film about tackling
authoritarianism. I do not believe that this movie, and particularly the actors
in it, presents Maude as dominant over Harold in any way. Instead, the film
seems to be challenging the idea that a relationship requires one active and
one passive agent at all. Both main actors demonstrate these claims through
their performances, toppling traditional power dynamics and introducing an
alternative, anti-war and anti-authority paradigm of love.